meethefox:

Me and this guy who ive know for a long time got reallyyyy close this summer but hes 18 and I’m underage.I’ve never liked someone so much before.Hes in college 6 hours away and I’m here,grounded till the end of the month. Last time I saw him he said we had to end it,but from what hes saying now over myspace and in his phonecalls it doesn’t seem like he wants to. No matter how much I try to convice myself that this situation is really bad, I really want to get back with him when he comes back for his fall break,but I know hes just going to leave again. Its not like he has a girlfriend at college or anything. Should I do what I really want or should I keep it strictly just friends no matter how much it may hurt me?
Our friend circle has also been really weird when we flirted and such infront of them.

Well first off, congradulations, you’re the first to ask advice! Okay and here’s how it is: I know EXACTLY what you’re in. I may not know you or you may not know me, but I was in a relationship with a guy who I got close to over summer then continued dating when he moved six hours away from me when school started. It lasted two years of total happiness, but at the same time pain worse than you’d ever imagine. Enough of that, back to you. You need to ask yourself…Can you trust this person? Do you trust yourself? I’m going to be honest, either way you’re going to hurt. Be with him and be happy for however long that works out, get attached, and be hurt when you guys break up (but at least you’ll get it “out of your system” and when you look back upon it you’ll realize why you guys broke up) OR keep it at a frienship level and hurt over not being with him and deal with never knowing what it would’ve been like. Long distance relationships are extremely hard and you have to understand that. You have to accept the fact that things can go wrong. Now, in my opinion, if you TRUELY want to be with this person, if you can trust them whole heartedly, if they have never hurt you so far, you don’t want to be with anyone else, go for it. And if things do turn out as bad as say mine did,  take it as a lesson. Learn from it. But if you have doubts, if you’re not 100% sure, tell him. Explain to him how you feel but then explain why you can’t be with him and see how he reacts. If he’s understandable then, okay, you guys will just be friends. AND, remember, there’s PLENTY of fish in the sea. And I promise there’s someone around you that is good for you and who will treat you right.

I hope this helps! Let me know what you decide and how things go! Please, I’d love to know!